What to do if your toddler cries during a photoshoot

Understanding the Two-Year-Old Mind

Photographing a two-year-old can often feel like a rollercoaster ride. As a family photographer, I recently captured a session with a sweet little two-year-old girl who, to my surprise, cried throughout most of the shoot. This experience reminded me of the challenges parents face when they hope to capture those perfect smiling photos. It can be heartbreaking, especially after all the effort spent on selecting outfits, packing snacks, and getting everyone ready.

It’s Normal for Toddlers to Cry

If you find yourself in a similar situation, please know it is completely normal. At this age, children are learning about their independence and navigating big emotions. New settings, unfamiliar faces, or even the expectation to be photographed can be overwhelming. Factors like fatigue, teething, or simply craving a parent’s cuddles can also contribute to their distress during photoshoots. Remember, it’s perfectly okay!

Cherishing the Unplanned Moments

As a Sunshine Coast family photographer, I don’t strive for perfection; in fact, I anticipate the opposite. Some of the most cherished images come from those unplanned and real moments—the tiny hands wrapped around a parent's neck, a comforting gesture during tears, or a little face peeking out shyly. Each of these touches captures the essence of your family as it is right now.

Yesterday's session was a poignant reminder that photography should embrace patience. The focus should not solely be on forcing smiles, but rather on creating a safe and nurturing environment where children feel at ease to be themselves. This usually means allowing breaks, chasing after bubbles, or simply sitting on the grass to wait for the moment to happen naturally.

Parents often express their apologies when their child cries during a session, but let me assure you that there is no need for that. Children are far from robots; they do not perform on cue, and it would be unreasonable for anyone to expect them to do so. My role as a photographer is to adapt to your little one’s needs and create timeless images, regardless of how the session unfolds.

Interestingly enough, parents often leave feeling uncertain about the outcome of their photoshoot. But when they later view their gallery, they see the love, connection, and comfort shared among family members. The tiny expressions and candid moments they didn’t even realize were captured often become the favorites.

So, if you’re anxious about your child not behaving during your upcoming photoshoot, fret not! Bring along snacks, their favorite toy or teddy bear, and your abundant patience. I’ll bring mine, too. Because remember, childhood is far from perfect, and your photos don’t have to be either—they only need to be authentically yours.